Some time ago, I was expressing frustration to my mom and grandma that Aunt F had not made plans for her disabled child after her death. "He needs a special needs trust and a group living situation!" I fumed. "Who will manage the money?"
Friends, I have just won a truly spectacular complainer's prize. Aunt F has emailed me asking for financial guidance and also if I would take responsibility for managing my cousin's money after she dies (long delayed, we hope, but the kid is 25 and she is 62). One of these days I will learn to keep my mouth shut.
However, I will do it. The kid's sibling is even younger and has some issues and in any event that's a lot to lay on a sibling. The rest of the cousins are ill suited for a variety of reasons. I'm just clearly becoming the Responsible Older Cousin and I have no-one to blame but myself.
Oh. That's both vindication for your being right and her listening, and... well. That's a lot of work. That much I know from a dear friend's caring for her cousin later in his life. I hope that you won't be needed for a very long time.
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