There's someone here whom I dislike quite intensely. Let's just say she and her spouse have a lot of children and some precarious employment and an addiction problem. But they vote Republican because they're good hard working Americans! Welfare is only for white evangelical people like them!
These fine people are expecting another child shortly. (EIGHT!! While I hesitate to impugn anyone's longing for a child, perhaps one might stop at a number one can support?). The spouse has been kicked out of the house for using again and she's trying to solicit $10,000 to buy a car.
Well, you know, I'd quite like people to give ME $10,000, too.
Of course I did NOT feel moved to contribute. But I did email the lady and ask if she'd like me to bring dinner by, because nobody deserves to go hungry. Her response was no thank you, we're okay for now, but how nice and sweet of you.
No. It was not nice. I was offering solely out of my conviction that it was the right thing to do. Acually I feel rather a worm of a human being to be praised for it because none of my feelings about this person could be described as nice.
However, I will still bring her dinner after the baby's born. I feel obligated to be more charitable in deed precisely *because* I am less charitable in thought.