Someone I knew in Cold City is 'crowd funding' her parent's funeral. To the tune of $15,000.
Look, I know funerals are stupid expensive. However! If someone's last wish is to be cremated and transported to [East Asian Religion] monastery in a far flung corner of [Faraway Country], perhaps that person should make those arrangements their own damn self, especially before being dead/ expensively brain dead.
And if someone's only offspring is a broke grad student with a child, maybe that's a good time to put aside sentiment - and expensive funerals.
Maybe I'll feel different about it when I'm older, but I suspect I and my robot feelings will turn out like my mom: "Bury me in the cheapest crate they have. Or a sheet. I don't care. I'll be somewhere else, or nowhere at all, by then."
Also, if it were my ashes or even my beloved parent's ashes, I would have the crematory send them FedEx. Live within your means!
(I'm trying to think if there's any kind of 'crowd funding' for donations -as opposed to goods and services- that I don't feel grinchy about. Maybe 'my house caught fire'. But only for people I actually know well, because I feel no financial obligation to relative strangers, though we do donate to charities. You?)
For some reason this brings to mind the time my grandma was filling out a Five Wishes form. She was going along checking off and crossing out. "I want my clergy person to be notified if I am hospitalized - yes. I want to be bathed even if I am nonresponsive- yes. I want my congregation to pray for me if I'm ill - maybe. WAIT. 'I want to be massaged daily with oils?' Fuck, no."
I recently went to a memorial service at the local country club. 'I think they'll have wine,' I told Dr. S. 'At a memorial?' he said. 'No!'
Open bar and LAKES of wine and a bluegrass band and five kinds of dessert and only 15 minutes of speeches. Dear readers, when I go - may it be decades away - raise a glass and float me off on a lake of liquor. But only if everyone can reasonably afford it.