Last night, as I lay awake unable to sleep and caught in a spiral of anxiety (despite the drugs!) the hostile doctor was rather at the forefront.
I don't know if that horrible bitch was a representative sample. The way she talked about 'hospital policy' as if were the word of the Almighty certainly seems to indicate that the hospital does nothing to stop it. (On the other hand, we were back there the next week for tongue-tie-clipping, the ENT was great and very kind, and we were in and out in an hour, which is some kind of record.)
But what terrifies me is the thought of someone so ignorant, and yet so convinced of their own omnipotence, trying to take my choices- my rational, scientific, SAFE choices!- about my child out of my hands. It's unethical and inappropriate unless there is a clear indication that the parent's choices are a serious threat to the child's health. It's doubly inappropriate when talking to a pair of biochemists who actually have sound, evidence-based, well-supported reasons for their choices (like NOT staying in a hospital full of sick people, with their healthy baby). At best, this doctor honestly thinks she knows best and has the duty to take choices out of parents' hands. At worst, she's on a power trip in an environment with no safeguards on her egomania.
We live in a rural area. There are two real hospitals - each 45 minutes away. I'm almost afraid to ever go back to that hospital. The depth of bad in this one bad interaction has poisoned my judgment of the whole hospital's medical competence- which surely isn't fair - but fear is rarely rational.