People keep asking me about breastfeeding and then giving me That Look if/when I explain that one round of mastitis = We. Will. Be. Done.
People also keep asking if I'm planning to go to LLL meetings. Maybe? If things work out okay? Because I WILL hit the first person who suggests echinacea. I don't feel like I need support. (If other people want suggestions about tongue ties, thrush, bad latch, pumping, or multi-drug-resistant mastitis, however, I'm their woman. Ye gods, what an assortment of bad luck.)
As it happens, I've nursed my children for a combined total of 30 months. But if I had nursed them for a combined total of 30 minutes, it shouldn't matter.
There's still a part of me, though, that feels that doctors' general lack of breastfeeding knowledge and support is a big obstacle (though not as much as the fact that nursing hurts and is kind of terrible even when it's great). Just think how little the average MD knows about drug safety in nursing. If women are getting bad advice, then I'm all for support. But I'm also all for acknowledging that parents have needs too and sometimes those needs are incompatible with breastfeeding. This whole ethic of "if you loved your baby enough/ wanted to do the best thing, you'd breastfeed" makes me feel squidgy all over.