I started out this unexpected pregnancy by losing ten pounds. Not on purpose; I was too sick to eat.
Since then I've gained back the weight I lost (which is good! I needed those pounds!) and about ten more pounds. (I'm 34 weeks.) The number of people who feel free to comment on my appearance drives me crazy, though. 'You look great!' they say cheerfully. Well, for one, I feel like an angry whale with stabbing pains, and for two, it's not like I did anything to cause this. Did I exercise, refrain from eating that entire pumpkin pie, or make sure to take my vitamins? I surely did not. And, if I'd gained 30 pounds net instead, that would ALSO be fine. (Though more of a pain to get rid of later, naturally.) I have terrible headaches, there's a nerve-pinch-with-dagger every time I take a step, I wake up five times a night or more, and if I try to walk more than a quarter mile I start having contractions again. The kind that hurt enough you're nauseous. Frankly, I'd rather people say nothing. I know they're trying to be nice but I'm maaaaybe just a little irritable about, oh, everything.
(I do dress up in Southern-business-casual every day and put on earrings, makeup, and a necklace. The South can be pretty judgmental about personal appearance, in a totally different way from the North - where, I'll remind you, I lived for my entire adult life up until now, so I do know what I'm talking about. So at least I'm not in yoga pants or Leggings Are Not Pants, even when I'd prefer to be.)
I feel entirely out of control while pregnant. For me it's completely different from being not-pregnant, when I could perhaps convince myself to eat a carrot or something. Now, if I eat a carrot when I don't feel like a carrot, I'll throw up. (That entire pumpkin pie, however, was purely a loss of self-control. And the pound of chocolate. I could have not eaten the whole thing. That month I gained 7 of the 10 pounds.)
In summary: cranky, unhappy pregnant lady will bite you if you say something nice, but realizes that this is an unkind response.
(I am probably about to eat another entire pumpkin pie for Thanksgiving.)