(Let me preface this with: my spouse is, generally, a reasonable human being who is kind and caring. ALSO I may be a little frustrated, pissed off, and emotional. Maybe.)
Dr. S is not planning to take any time off when baby #3 is born. Well, maybe a week. Certainly not two. But, you see, his entire course load next year is in the spring. Right after this baby is expected to arrive. How could he ditch his classes and instead take responsibility as a parent? (The less irritated translation is, he's concerned about alienating his entire department during his first year as a TT professor - finally! - and feels it's in our family's long-term best interests to avoid that.)
Not that I'm annoyed or anything.