(Not me.)
My sister is getting divorced. I won't go into it, except than to say, they've both behaved like spoiled, irresponsible children. I hope their two young children will come out relatively unscathed, but I deeply doubt it; her soon-to-be-former spouse possesses a crazy, completely unstable family and the worst-ever role models. As in, this person's parents are still putting their children in the middle of their conflicts, and they've been divorced for twenty years.
Anyhow. Both of these people decided to join a right-wing religion that preaches how women are inferior and men are in charge of the household. My sister got a PhD, at which point her spouse started feeling threatened by her independence, and it went downhill from there.
Frankly, I couldn't be less surprised at the outcome.
(Although the fact of the divorce did cause me to call my friend R and shriek into the phone for a half-hour, "What the @#$! WHAT THE %@#$!!!!!" Sadly, I had laryngitis at the time, which lessened the impact.)
Shouting with no voice must be terribly frustrating. It is possible (if not likely) the children will end up ok. Look at my mother! Perhaps your sister will find someone NOT threatened by her intelligence. What's the instance of remarriage amongst divorced right-wing religionists?
ReplyDeleteHmm, couldn't find any statistics in English... also, this is why to NOT get married at 20, a month after graduation.
DeleteSigh. It is depressing, isn't it, how often the "if this were a novel" version of events is, in fact, Exactly What Happens? I think some people don't pay enough attention in English class, I really do.
ReplyDeleteI don't think they were doomed to the made-for-TV version, but they seem to have supplied the entire story arc, that's for sure.
DeleteTHANK GOD THEY ARE GETTING DIVORCED, amiright? Best wishes to your sister and the kids.
ReplyDeleteI'd prefer they instead erase the last eight years of CRAZY and start again, but under the circumstances... pretty much.
DeleteThis sounds bad, but hopefully they get divorced and go on with their own separate lives. Or it becomes DRAMA because the other person is always doing something to get a response out of the other person, or just can't act by adult and take responsibility for their own lives and the ex has to manage their rent/car payment/job/childcare duties...sigh. And I'm related to these people. Hello chlorine in the gene pool.
ReplyDeleteMy sister is also getting divorced. She's just waiting for her job health coverage to kick in before signing the papers.
ReplyDeleteIt was rough on everyone. There were no kids involved, but misery still abounds.
She's now just headlong into another serious relationship (did I mention she's not divorced yet?) with an approximation of her almost-ex-husband. New guy has different complexion and obsessively uses a different condiment on his food, but otherwise they seem very similar (same job, same similar life situation, same attitude).
Miserable.