Tuesday, July 26, 2011


Someone I know had a stillbirth a few months ago, followed by a recent miscarriage. We went to grad school together, but I haven't seen her in years.  She and her spouse are very, very far away, and there's little I can do for them in practical terms. 

So I made a donation in memory of her babies, and emailed her to say, I'm thinking of you both, I'm sorry for your losses, and I hope there are better times ahead.

I hope it was the right thing to do.  I hope it eases her heart just a tiny, tiny bit.

I don't know what else to say.


  1. Oh no, I'm so sorry.

    And it sounds like a good, kind thing to do (I'm not sure if there always is a "right" thing, some situations are so wrong to begin with...)

  2. Sounds like a response that's right on the money, from what I've heard from women who have been through this. I so hope they've got lots of support as they get through this.

  3. That sounds like exactly the right response to that situation.

  4. I'm sure that they appreciate your kindness.

  5. She emailed me back and said that they were moved by the donation, so at least not mortally offended. They're coming back to the US soon so at least family will be closer.


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