As you must surely recall, I live in a tiny, tiny town.
When I lived in Cold City (metro population: about 500,000) I avoided people I disliked. I didn't hang out with people from the hippie co-op, I didn't go to anything with the word 'natural' or 'attachment' in its description, and I didn't venture into places teeming with the under-vaccinated children of religious wingnuts and/or left-wing loonies. (Here, these collectively describe every public place.)
Here... not so much. There is one of everything and if I am there, I will see someone I know (and maybe dislike). Why do I dislike all these people? Mostly, them being evangelical about some personal choice (MLMs, not vaccinating, vegetarianism*, cooking all organic). You know, the kind of person who sends out a recipe that calls for "Organic Muir Glen fire-roasted tomatoes"** or who mentions five times that they made a VEGETARIAN anniversary dinner. The kind of person who firmly believes their choices are morally superior to yours.
And by the way the food part really pisses me off.*** Way to really feed into the cultural food-as-moral-value!
(There are plenty of things we don't eat - bacon, for example. I've never told my children our choice had any moral value. I say 'We don't eat that in our house. When you're living in your own house you can eat whatever you want.')
In addition, this is a college town. Anyone I piss off, odds are still pretty good I'll be living in town with them for the next 30 years and will see them weekly for all of it.
I embrace the part of my personality that is a grinch, but how do I grinch in a socially appropriate manner that I won't regret in ten years? I am confounded.
(Mostly right now this is an academic -ha!- question because all my hours are used to by baby nursing and child ferrying and dealing with not having a stove for TWO MONTHS and it's not like I have time to socialize.)
* I was a strict vegetarian for 10 years.
** This really happened. For Pete's sake, people, they're tomatoes in a metal can.
*** In casual conversation. Anti-vaccine nuts piss me off more, naturally.