tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post2954644374024446973..comments2024-03-27T10:29:06.518-04:00Comments on A Natural Scientist: In Which I Agonize Over Completely Theoretical DecisionsJenny F. Scientisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-61434877529250961802013-06-13T21:47:25.963-04:002013-06-13T21:47:25.963-04:00The spouse agrees that the decision rests in my ut...The spouse agrees that the decision rests in my uterus, fortunately. But, you know, displaced anxiety much?Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-37463017387795764862013-06-13T16:23:52.389-04:002013-06-13T16:23:52.389-04:00we've put the "third child" discussi...we've put the "third child" discussion on hold for an indefinite period. I used to think 3-close-together, as well, until I realized how much hell 2-close-together is. I still like the IDEA of a third, but I'll revisit that when the boys are both completely out of diapers. If I feel like another foray into diaper changing when I'm 40, we can discuss again. <br />Yes, you do indeed get the tie-breaker vote---what with your uterus, your vagina, your tits, your sanity bearing the brunt of the whole ordeal...anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18320182732889825712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-31450550738376811822013-06-09T14:38:29.921-04:002013-06-09T14:38:29.921-04:00Wait. I always thought that the bum-wiping years ...Wait. I always thought that the bum-wiping years were best compressed, and so I left it to the point that they would HAVE to be compressed (ie, my advancing years). It's really really hard; in retrospect it would have saved alot of my sanity, and been so much better for everyone* to have had at least one child in school by the time I had my third, and I can't even imagine the freedom if I had two in school. As it is I have 3 pre-schoolers at home from midday every day (plus 2 hellish nursery runs before that), and I am counting the days down until the eldest starts school in Sept. So if you have the option to wait for a bit, do. Don't get strung up on age gaps etc - in my experience, it makes no difference to the closeness of siblings in the long run. <br /><br />(*probably not better for my third-born however, who would obviously not then have been my third-born...)The Reluctant Laundererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07071218412880674277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-31222395270585485612013-06-06T21:48:29.032-04:002013-06-06T21:48:29.032-04:00Plus, there's both a PYO orchard AND WINERY an...Plus, there's both a PYO orchard AND WINERY and a PYO berry place AND YARN SHOP. I mean... does it get any better? Well, that plus free babysitting, I guess.Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-2862541575969038742013-06-06T21:47:52.711-04:002013-06-06T21:47:52.711-04:00I laughed. And then I cried. JESUS NO. I've...I laughed. And then I cried. JESUS NO. I've watched kids the same ages as mine, and after every time, I think, wow, that's a lot of work. <br /><br />These last four months have been full of a lot of suck; you're right, we can only improve. Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-52520233271387370632013-06-06T20:24:35.086-04:002013-06-06T20:24:35.086-04:00So let's see....the answer is to get pregnant ...So let's see....the answer is to get pregnant with twins. Right? Cause that would fix everything.<br /><br />I'm excited to see how things develop. The current situation just sounds pretty unsatisfying for everyone. The new one has got to be better, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-14144072738590145992013-06-06T13:02:26.135-04:002013-06-06T13:02:26.135-04:00We also welcome lengthy digressions/rants as this ...We also welcome lengthy digressions/rants as this establishment. :) Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-38371052231827024382013-06-06T13:02:02.933-04:002013-06-06T13:02:02.933-04:00Hah! I'm one of three, so....Hah! I'm one of three, so....Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-26908025694723547392013-06-06T11:30:37.632-04:002013-06-06T11:30:37.632-04:00I just wrote this huge comment sympathizing with t...I just wrote this huge comment sympathizing with the ambivalence over having 2 or 3 kids (we only have the one thus far) and then realized I digressed into a complete rant/freak out. That would be entirely the opposite of useful to you. To sum up my comment: I completely sympathize and think that you get the super, special, tie-breaking vagina/uterus vote.Amanda@Lady Scientisthttp://biochemgradstudent.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-61369654327572806262013-06-05T23:10:11.664-04:002013-06-05T23:10:11.664-04:00As someone from a large family, I say don't ha...As someone from a large family, I say don't have another kid!EcoGeoFemmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11236907917990309659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-87951123970815099662013-06-05T22:19:54.257-04:002013-06-05T22:19:54.257-04:00If it got any bigger I think it might take over, E...If it got any bigger I think it might take over, Eggplant That Ate Chicago-style. <br /><br />I mostly like making hats for people I know... somehow, it's more fun. <br /><br />"Ear-piercing screams" just about covers it. You forgot the "throw yourself on the ground and have a tantrum" in unison, though. I think he would stay home if I wanted- but then I'd be stuck working forever, and he'd be out of academia forever. Decisions, decisions... time for more wine. Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-19650596064776531662013-06-05T22:17:59.544-04:002013-06-05T22:17:59.544-04:00No, no, this is totally irrational freaking out. ...No, no, this is totally irrational freaking out. You are right- I have many more years to make a final decision. I'm displacing my moving anxiety onto everything else, is what. <br /><br />There's also a reasonable desire to compress the bottom-wiping years as much as possible - though I'm 9 years older than my youngest sister; I can see the appeal of an older kid who can actually hold the baby. Jenny F. Scientisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072624674603337551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-73161972310781454022013-06-05T19:34:21.849-04:002013-06-05T19:34:21.849-04:001. Your parents would take you in. Your dad would ...1. Your parents would take you in. Your dad would be so excited, he'd enlarge the garden.<br />2. You should sell hats on Etsy, if the local transport company doesn't work out.<br />3. Dr. S. doesn't have to be miserable for 38 weeks, not to mention the fun you've had breastfeeding! Is he volunterring to stay home with multiple small children ALL DAY? I mean, your kids are adorable and frequently delightful, but there is also the ear-piercing screams that frequently emit from their tiny mouths. You know, like all normal children. So, what Dr. S. kind of wants is a little less important than what you are really willing to go through for another child. Who, yes, you'd love and cherish and be glad about when they're older. Probably.<br /><br />But yes, none of these decisions will happen soon. Sometimes that makes the agonizing worse. More alcohol and knitting!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03276995787173932700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36650952.post-46615283335525698672013-06-05T18:27:19.408-04:002013-06-05T18:27:19.408-04:00Beyond the "NOOOOO", which you'll ne...Beyond the "NOOOOO", which you'll need to work out with Dr. S, would three have to happen now? Why not get a job and some financial stability for a while, and then go and reconsider three? If I remember correctly you're sort of my age and not infertile, so you may not need to rush... <br />I used to want at least 3 kids close in age, perhaps because that's how I grew up. Now, well, I'd be happy if we can have any, but I also care much less about the age gaps after seeing one of my mentors with her kids, all 3-4 years apart.Ameliehttp://amelies-welt.de/blognoreply@blogger.com